“It Wasn’t Violent”

Trigger warning for pretty much everything.

Prosecutors may get conviction in Steubenville rape trial, but it will come at a cost – Yahoo! Sports

“Well,” Westlake said, “it wasn’t violent. I didn’t know exactly what rape was. I always pictured it as forcing yourself on someone.”

via Prosecutors may get conviction in Steubenville rape trial, but it will come at a cost – Yahoo! Sports.

I’m gonna quote that again.

“Well,” Westlake said, “it wasn’t violent. I didn’t know exactly what rape was. I always pictured it as forcing yourself on someone.”

Is this where we’ve come as a people that getting a girl either so drunk or roofied isn’t violent? That carrying her around while she’s puking isn’t violent? That ejaculating on her while she’s passed out isn’t violent? That penetrating her with your fingers as she’s blacked out isn’t violent?

Putting parts of your body into someone who isn’t capable of participating isn’t force?

It’s kind? It’s gentle? It’s peaceable?

This quote frightens me more than anything I’ve read about the entire case.

EVERYTHING ABOUT IT WAS VIOLENT.

Their words. Their texts. Their laughter and callous disregard are the DEFINITION of violence, interpersonal violence, violence of the body, mind, soul hers and quite fucking frankly, THEIRS.

This is what we need to teach boys, girls, people NOT to do.

Teach people what violence is and teach them to stop it. This whole culture is steeped in it.

I don’t want to blame things like Grand Theft Auto or Saw or Hostel, but I do also want to look to a culture that thinks torture in war is AOK, that guns should be the answer to rape, that torture porn movies make millions and I’ve got to wonder what the fuck is going on. Not that violence didn’t exist in earlier times, but still.

Or else these boys are just plain lying. Either choice is horrifying.

I’m taking a break for the rest of the weekend.

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3 responses to ““It Wasn’t Violent”

  1. There really is nothing to add. Just feel enveloped in sadness and disgust. It makes me want to cry for the girl involved and for society in general. Fuck.

  2. Isn’t it illegal to film a criminal act without notifying authorities? Not to mention 16 year old constitutes child porn in the U.S? How the hell do you walk away from that without conviction? Parents cop a child porn charge if they take photos of their baby naked in a non-sexual setting, so filming a rape of a minor especially should be a mixbag of production of child porn + filming a non-consenting sexual act + filming non-consenting physical violence n abuse + distribution of child porn + those who received it are at risk of being charged with possession + failure to notify authorities of a criminal act (if that exists?) + accessory to the acts + cyber bullying laws probably cover it too. At the very least I’d expect them to be sent into a program to educate them on the horror of what happened, but anyone filming and distributing it need some jailtime too.

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